"Rev. Henry Cary, son of the Bishop of Killala was on last Saturday married to Miss Mary DEERING, a young lady of great beauty, merit and a fortune of £5000 sterling."
Mary was the daughter of Henry Deering/Dering, by Mary King, daughter of Sir Robert King, 1st Baronet Rockingham. Henry Dering was son of Charles Dering by Margaret Moore, and was a grandson of Edward Dering, 2nd Baronet, of Surrenden-Dering, Pluckley, Kent. There was quite an involved marriage settlement regarding the marriage
Family
The Cary's had five children:
Four sons
Henry a captain in the Irish Volunteers, Portarlington Infantry, married Anne Gore, daughter of Paul Annesley Gore of Belleck.
Robert a captain in the 63rd Foot, married Henrietta Burrell.
Charles a Dublin merchant, married Susanna Rainsford.
One daughter
The birth of a daughter was announced in April, 1747, but she did not survive and is possibly one of the four grandchildren buried near Bishop Mordecai in Killala.
Second marriage
Mary died in Trim on 1 July 1756, leaving four boys whose ages ranged from five to thirteen. Henry Cary resettled in Portarlington, County Laois. Though it is 133 miles by road from Killala, he continued as Archdeacon of Killala. Three months after the death of his first wife, he married to Deborah Hamon at St Paul's French Church, Portarlington, on 2 October 1756. She was the daughter of Huguenot, Isaac Hamon, Lieut-Col of the Queen's Regiment of Foot, and niece of Colonel Hector Hamon. They went on to have four more children:
Charlotte socialite and close friend of Elizabeth Handcock, and of Lady Caroline, Countess of Portarlinton;
Arthur a captain with the Loyal Irish Fencible Infantry, married Letitia Ormsby.
Frederick, married Sarah Hunt.
Death
In Henry's will, proved 1769, he states that he had purchased a Lieutenancy of Foot for his son, William; an Ensigncy for Robert, with money paid out for a Lieutenancy of Foot for him also; and £300 to set up his son, Charles, as a Merchant in Dublin. The will, which was witnessed by Peter Hamon, William Burrell, and Edward Geoghegan, also bestowed an annuity of £30 on Hector Hamon. The house in Portarlington and a nearby farm at Westmeath were settled on his eldest son, Henry. The seal on the Archdeacon's will was a swan rising, claiming a link to the Carys of Devon. His father's seal had the episcopal arms of Killala and three roses on a bend, also arms of the Devon Carys. At the time of the Archdeacon's death, Henry, jnr, was 26, newly married to Anne Gore with a child of his own, and with the added responsibility of six younger siblings to care for, the youngest being only two years of age. The second eldest son, William, was already away in the army.
Burial
Henry is buried in the churchyard of French Church, Portarlington. His grave is nestled in the right angle of two low stone walls, directly behind the church. The headstone reads:
Death of his second wife
Deborah Hamon-Cary, the Archdeacon's widow, died in 1796.
Other family buried at French Church, Portarlington
Other headstones of some of the Archdeacon's descendants can also be seen in the churchyard of the French Church, Portarlington:
daughter, Charlotte Cary d.1810 unmarried. The inscription of her death is included on the memorial stone of Elizabeth Handcock by Elizabeth's nephew, Lord Castlemaine;
son, Captain Arthur Cary d. 1812 at Badajoz ;
great-grandson, Annesley Cary d.1851; and
Great-great grandson, Henry Charles Cary d. 1957 & his wife Amy FitzMaurice d.1941.