Love marriage is a term used in commonwealth countries; primarily India, Pakistan, Bangladesh, Nepal, Sri Lanka and Egypt. It is generally used to describe a marriage which was driven solely by the couple, as opposed to arranged marriage. While there is no clear definition of love marriage; the term was in common use globally during the Victorian era. It is used to describe a marriage where the individuals love or court each other and get married with or without consent of their parents.
In Europe
According to Coontz, the marriages between Anglo-Saxons were organised to establish peace and trading relationships. In the 11th century, marriages were organised on the basis of securing economics advantages or political ties. The wishes of the couples were not considered important. The bride was especially expected to defer to her father's wishes. In 1140, Decretum Gratiani was written by Gratian. It made consent of the couple a requirement for marriage. This book became the foundation of the policy of the Christian Church on marriage. In 1761, Jean-Jacques Rousseau wrote Julie, or the New Heloise. The title is a reference to Peter Abelard, a 12th-century philosopher, who fell in love with his pupil, Héloïse d'Argenteuil. They had a child and secretly married. When Heloise's guardian found this, he had Abelard castrated. The story was well-known at Rousseau's time, after their letter had been published. Rousseau's book, Julie, is about the titular character and her tutor St. Preux. The book is written in the form of letters. Julie's father opposes the relation and marries her to another man, whom he considers more suitable. The 1840 marriage of Queen Victoria and Prince Albertmade love marriage more acceptable in the minds of the British public in the Victoria era where love marriages were on the rise. American historian Stephanie Coontz has tried to record the history of love marriages in her 2005 book Marriage, A History: From Obedience to Intimacy, or How Love Conquered Marriage. Her book argues that, while not universal, marriages based on love and personal commitments started to emerge as early as the 14th century and really began to flower in the 1700s.
In India
In India, love marriages started becoming popular in urban areas in 1970s. Initially, love marriages occurred between acceptable communities. Love marriage now commonly transcend ethnic, community and religion barriers. In a 2012 survey conducted by Ipsos for the TV channel NDTV, 74% of the respondents said that they preferred an arranged marriage. In 2010, the National Commission for Women released a report stating that it had documented 326 cases of honour killing in the past year, majority of which were due to Inter-caste marriages. In a 2014 survey conducted by the United Nations Population Fund and International Center for Research on Women, 11.7% of men and 8.5% of women surveyed claimed that they chose their partners and married with or without the consent of their families. The boundaries between the two types have started to blur. The term love-arranged marriage is used to describe a new emerging form of marriage which contains elements of both arranged marriage and love marriage. Love marriages are seen as imposition of the younger generation's will over the older generation's wishes.
In Pakistan
In Pakistan, arranged marriages are the norm and love marriage is rare in the society. Several cases of honour killing are recorded every year. In most cases, the woman is killed, however in some cases couples are killed. The Human Rights Commission of Pakistan counted about 869 such cases reported in the media, but noted that many such cases may also be unreported.
In Bangladesh
In Bangladesh there is a strong code of social and cultural prohibition on inter-gender friendship and/or romantic relationship; there have been so many incidents of unrequited love of boys and in the case of romantic relationship of two individuals, they secretly meet and talk, they may do elopement if their respective guardians are not willing to get them married. Due to society's large portion's Islamic adherence and conservative mentality, inter-gender friendship and romance is heavily suppressed. It is also very difficult to involve in romantic relationship and/or to find a life partner by one's own will and it's generally hard for boys to find life-partners, they need to become earners as Bangladeshi society is very conservative and patriarchal. The society largely relies on the arranged marriage system. There has been no honour killing in the history of Bangladesh but there are strong records of guardian objections for various reasons whether the boy is not liked by the girl's parents or the boy is unemployed or of lower-social status etc, in this case the girl is forcibly married to a boy by her parents choice, and if the girl do elopement with the boy, her parents may file a police case against the boy; this social and cultural trend is still too much prevalent in Bangladeshi society. Some couples may commit suicide for not being supported by their families and society.
In Egypt
In Egypt, love marriages, especially interfaith marriages, are generally considered socially unacceptable. Interfaith marriages are often seen as a tactic to recruit members from other religions. Such marriages sometimes result in sectarian violence. According to Egyptian law, a man from another religion must convert to Islam to marry a Muslim woman. However, a Christian woman may marry a Muslim man without converting, but officials require the woman to produce a letter of approval from her church, which is rarely granted.
