My way or the highway


My way or the highway is a predominantly USA idiom that dates back to the 1970s. It suggests an ultimatum like "take it or leave it", which indicates that the listener must totally accept the speaker's decision or suffer negative consequences such as being fired, asked to leave, or receive nothing. The idiom literally tells the listener that if they don't wish to follow the speaker's demands they will have to leave, specifically, go take the highway out of town, otherwise, if they choose to stay, they will be required to follow the speaker's demands. The idiom may sometimes be seen with other pronouns, for example, her way or the highway.

Examples

One of former Hull hospitals boss Phil Morley's senior directors was reported as saying "it's Phil's way or the high way".
As San Francisco Chief of Police, Anthony Ribera was known for his hair-trigger temper and aggressive "my way or the highway" approach which was detested in the Department.
Meles Zenawi, former Prime Minister of Ethiopia, was described by Donald Yamamoto, United States Ambassador to Ethiopia, as a man thirsty for power who will cling on to power till his last breath. His ideas were based on "it's my way or the highway" best described by David Shinn, former Ambassador to Ethiopia. Sources close to him and his family say he had a bad temper and liked to talk by telephone with leaders even in the middle of the night.
Lawrence Biondi was a controversial figure over the span of his presidency at St. Louis University. When asked about his approach to leadership for accomplishing his bold vision, Biondi said he is a "my-way-or-the-highway kind of guy."