Ramani Suryakantham Durvasula was born in Englewood, New Jersey on December 30, 1965. Her mother is Sai Durvasula. She also has a sister, Padma Salisbury.
She has a private practice in Santa Monica and another in Sherman Oaks, Los Angeles. She is also Professor of Psychology at California State University, and a Visiting Professor of Psychology at the University of Johannesburg. Books she has authored include “Don’t You Know Who I Am”: How to Stay Sane in the Era of Narcissism, Entitlement and Incivility, Should I Stay or Should I Go: Surviving a Relationship With a Narcissist, and You Are WHY You Eat: Change Your Food Attitude, Change Your Life, as well as peer-reviewed journal articles, book chapters, and conference papers. Durvasula first appeared on television on an episode of Remote Control. She was the co-host of the showMy Shopping Addiction on the Oxygen network, and has provided expert commentary on the TODAY show and Good Morning America. Channels such as Bravo, the Lifetime Movie Network, National Geographic, the History Channel, Discovery Science, and Investigation Discovery have also featured her. In the Fall of 2010, she starred in the Bravo series “Thintervention,” where she led group therapy sessions to help six participants find out the source of their overeating. She is co-host of the podcastSexual Disorientation. She has been interviewed on internet media platforms as well, notably MedCircle and TONE Network. She has spoken at TEDx Sedona and South by Southwest. At the American Psychological Association, she was on the Committee on Socioeconomic Status from 2014–2017, and is a member of the Advisory Board of the Minority Fellowship Program. The National Institutes of Health has funded her research on personality disorders; they approved a $1.5 million grant for her to study the link between HIV and mental illness. The four-year study, that included 288 patients, determined that 92-percent of participants had experienced depression, substance use disorder or another Axis-I disorder, and that nearly half met criteria for at least one Axis-II disorder.
Durvasula resides in Los Angeles, having lived there since 1991., and they have two daughters, Maya and Shanti. The couple separated in 2008 and divorced the following year. In an interview with Prevention magazine, Durvasula recounted beginning to struggle with her weight in her mid 20s. After having children, however, stress from balancing her career and personal life caused her to seek "solace" in food. The fellow mothers at her daughter's school, who she says were generally svelte, were unkind to her. In preparation for a wedding, she tried on several saris her mother had brought her from India, but none of them fit. Tearful, she committed to losing weight, and began a regimen of daily walking, smaller portions, and produce at every meal. She lost 65 pounds after a little over a year.
Filmography
Thintervention –
Ted Talk – "Narcissism and Its Discontents"
Red Table Talk – "The Narcissism Epidemic"
The Today Show – "How to Prepare for a Healthy Divorce"
The Today Show – "Relationship Expert Offers Advice to Couples in Quarantine"
Red Table Talk – "Managing Our Anxiety & Fear During COVID-19"
Oxygen's Snapped – "Notorious: Hollywood Ripper"
Podcasts
Sexual Disorientation with Dr. Ramani
The Psych Central Show – "Why Does the Narcissist Always Get the Girl?"
The Psych Central Show – "Help! My Coworker Is a Narcissist!"
LAHWF – "Chatting with an Expert on Narcissism"
Being Well with Dr. Rick Hanson – "How to Deal with a Narcissist"
Speaking of Psychology – "Recognizing a Narcissist"
Progress Notes "Sharing Your Expertise in the Media"
Mental Illness Happy Hour with Paul Gilmartin "Narcissists and Psychopaths"
On Purpose with Jay Shetty – "How To Cope With Feelings Of Uncertainty & Grief During A Pandemic"
H.E.R. Space Podcast – "Raised By A Narcissist: Signs, Symptoms, and How to Recover"
Teddi Tea Pod With Teddi Mellencamp – "Don’t Fall In Love with a Narcissist"
Negotiate Your Best Life – "Do's and Don'ts of Negotiating with a Narcissist"
Cleaning Up the Mental Mess — "Navigating Narcissistic Relationships, How the Culture of Entitlement is Making the Pandemic Worse + Why We Are So Interested in Stories About Psychopaths with Psychologist Dr. Ramani Durvasula"
Papers
Books
You Are WHY You Eat: Change Your Food Attitude, Change Your Life
Should I Stay or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship with a Narcissist
Mothers, Daughters, and Body Image: Learning to Love Ourselves as We Are – with Hillary L. McBride
Don’t You Know Who I Am: Staying Sane in an Era of Narcissism, Entitlement and Incivility