After graduating from college and coming into his inheritance, he married Josephine Dulles Horner, a daughter of his medical school dean. They were wed on March 12, 1850 in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania. She died two years later and according to his wife's wishes, he married her sister, Elizabeth Welsh Horner. They raised several children.
Career
At the time of the Civil War, Eppes owned nearly 130 slaves and 2,300 acres at City Point and Eppes Island directly across the james River. He had given up his medical practice to manage his three plantations, devoted to wheat and other grains, and associated slaves. Eppes favored preservation of the Union, provided that Southern rights in slave property could be protected. In the Election of 1860, he supported John C. Breckinridge, who led the Southern faction of the Democratic party. Breckinridge represented those who were states rights and pro-slavery men, but who were not radical secessionists. Richard Eppes, encouraged slave marriages to discourage escape. He watched boats coming up the Appomattox to make sure that they were not picking up slaves and he took turns with other white landowners riding around City Point, looking for African Americans who may be involved in helping slaves escape. He also discouraged slaves and poor whites from trading in stolen grain which might lead to escape plans. Slaves often traveled to Hopewell to work on other plantations owned by Richard Eppes. Slaves were helped by railroad workers and ship Captains stopping in Petersburg, in their journeys to freedom up North as a part of the Underground Railroad. When war broke out, Eppes enlisted in the 3rd Virginia Cavalry and helped equip the unit. About a year later, he paid for a substitute to complete his obligation. Early in May 1862, his wife and children moved to Petersburg, which was located inland above the falls of the James River, for safety. Just days later, a Union raiding party landed at City Point. When the troops departed, all but twelve of Eppes' slaves had escaped with them, choosing to join the Union forces to gain freedom. Among those who escaped was Richard Slaughter, who decades later told his story to a Works Progress Administration interviewer in 1936. Most slaves were taken to Hampton, where they worked for the Union forces, and many began to learn to read and write. When given the chance, Slaughter and other men enlisted in the United States Colored Troops. Eppes worked as a civilian contract surgeon for the Confederate army in Petersburg for the duration of the war. In the middle of the siege, Eppes got his family out of Petersburg and sent them to his wife's family in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, to wait out the war. When Petersburg fell, Eppes decided to stay behind with the wounded as Robert E. Lee evacuated the Confederate forces from the city. By May 1865, Eppes had taken the Amnesty Oath, but found that his wealth excluded him from benefits of the Amnesty Proclamation. He had to raise money to reclaim and essentially purchase the title to his land and settle up with the Federal government. He also had to pay for any of the structures which the Union armyleft behind on his land before he could alter them. By early 1866, after a favorable transaction with the government, he controlled his plantation again. By March 1866, his family had returned and they were living at City Point. Eppes kept voluminous, detailed journals, which have been a source for historians on his planning and operation of his plantation, as well as the war and post-bellum years. The volumes for 1849 and 1851-1896 are in the collections of the Virginia Historical Society, in Richmond.
